Mothering the Way God Made You

“You're special. God made you like no one else in the world!” That's what we want our children to understand, isn't it?

Yet why do we as their mothers often try to be someone else?

We feel we're not good enough if we're not doing this or that activity with them. We feel worthless if our house is not clean enough or supper isn't nutritious enough or if we didn't spend time doing a certain activity with our kids. We can't do that Pinterest-worthy craft very well, but somehow we think it makes us a bad mom if we don't, so we try it anyway and end up frustrated and grouchy.

Many times moms create in their imagination a vision of “the perfect mom” and then try to live up to it. When we inevitably fail at this impossible task, our shoulders stoop in defeat. Is that what you want for your children? To live in a cycle of perpetual defeat from trying to be someone they're not? But we're training them by our own actions that that's what life is all about.

Instead of being discouraged when you don't live up to your standard of perfect mom, be thankful God made you who you are!

Be thankful you still think your kids are adorable even when they're not dressed in the latest clothing styles with coordinating hairbows.

Be glad you love them enough to wash their clothes for them – even if you did have to frantically dig through the laundry basket for a matching pair of socks five minutes before you left the house.

Be thrilled that their bellies are full even though their food in no way resembled the cute bento-box lunch you saw on Pinterest.

“Our joy can't be found in comparison, but in living out our strengths.”
I've been reading through the book Mothering From Scratch, and although I can't completely endorse every word of the book, I have still found it a huge encouragement in my motherhood journey.

The thoughts I've written above were inspired by one of the chapters in the book. One thing the chapter said that is so true, but I so often fail to remember is this:

“Our energy replenishes itself easily when we're working out of our strengths. It also erases competition. When we appreciate our own strengths and personalities and are comfortable with ourselves, we can better apreciate the strengths of others and draw on them.”

 

Instead of constantly trying to do the things we're not good at – and wear ourselves out and add to our insecurity in the process – we need to focus on what we are good at.

The rest of the chapter goes on to give a number of ways we can deal with the parts of our lives that are not our strengths. There are ways we can get good at things if we are willing to step out of our comfort zone. There are times we can simply ask others to step in and help fill the gaps. There are times when the perceived “gap” in our lives is not truly something that needs to be filled and we can simply choose not to worry about it.

Whatever the case, let's stop trying to be someone we're not. Let's fully embrace who God made us to be and experience the freedom and joy that comes when we loose ourselves from unrealistic ideals.

You can find the book Mothering From Scratch here. I know you will gain much encouragement from it!

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Teaching Reading Made Easy

Teaching Reading Made Easy is a guest post by Meeghan at Sight and Sound Reading.

It is easier than you think to teach reading. I always used to think that teaching someone to read would be a challenging experience. I never imagined my mother would prove to me it is actually very simple. This is the story of how I taught my daughter to read…

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5 Ways to Save Money With a Smartphone

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Up until now I've not had a smartphone because I didn't see it as a necessary expense.  Yes, it's nice to have, but I didn't want to pay the monthly expenses for it.  Now, thanks to T-Mobile Simply Prepaid™  I have found an affordable way to have a smartphone plan.  But I didn't want to stop there!  If I'm going to have this phone, I'm going to make it earn its keep!

I've been researching the best ways to save money with a smartphone, and I'm sharing my favorite tips here!

1. Get a good deal

If I'm shopping for a new coat or a new set of pots and pans and I happen to find a great price on one while I'm out shopping, I can use a price comparison app like RedLaser, ShopSavvy, or the Amazon app to scan the barcode on an item and see if it's cheaper anywhere else.

2. Score the cheapest parking

I don't live in the city where I would need this tip on a regular basis, but hopefully I'll remember it when we travel. Apps like SpotHero can help you find the cheapest parking spots around a city. Parking a few blocks from the expensive lots can offer some significant savings.

3. Use store coupons

Many stores have their own apps with coupons and special offers. For example, Target’s Cartwheel app allows you to shop sales and coupons and add them to a shopping list. It then creates one barcode hosting all your coupons to scan at checkout.  Some stores will send coupons via text that you can show to the cashier to get a discount on your purchase.  Others have codes you can scan when you walk into the store to get a special offer.

4. Save on gasoline

If you consistently purchase gas at the lowest price, you can save several hundred dollars over the course of a year.  But driving a little ways up the road to check another gas station's prices can actually waste money if it ends up being more expensive there.  That's where an app like GasBuddy comes in very handy!  You can simply type in your zip code and it will tell you which gas station near you has the lowest price.

5. Save on the essentials

It's great to get the best price on big-ticket items, but consistently purchasing everyday items at the lowest price will also do your budget a ton of good! You can find the lowest prices on things you already buy such as groceries, household goods and clothes with apps like Favado.  Checkout51 and Ibotta also give you cash back when you buy certain items.  And Shopkick rewards you just for shopping at certain stores.  Getting a check in the mail for shopping I would normally do anyway sounds like a pretty smart idea to me!

Combined with these money-saving tips, and an affordable, prepaid smartphone, I'm now fitting a smartphone into the budget.

Prepaid plans have the reputation for having slow data or spotty networks, and a less-than-stellar selection of phones.

Introducing Simply Prepaid™ from T-Mobile!

With Simply Prepaid™ you get 4G LTE data on T-Mobile and a great selection of phones.  I got the Samsung Galaxy Avant for myself. I haven't had a ton of time to use it yet, but it seems like it is going to be a great phone!

I easily spotted the T-Mobile Simply Prepaid™ phones at my local Walmart, along with the refill cards.  $40 gave me a month of 4G LTE date with unlimited talk and text.

With the 4G data plan, I'll be able to use all the apps I've mentioned above and save myself a lot of money in ways I haven't previously been able to do!

Here's a video another blogger put together about her experience with a T-Mobile Simply Prepaid™ phone:

Buying service is as easy as purchasing a refill card.  There is no contract, and if you don't want or need phone service one month, you can simply skip out on buying a refill card.

I was honestly a little intimidated at the prospect of getting the phone, activating it, and using the refill cards with it.

I shouldn't have worried.  It was as easy as pie!  All I had to do was go to their website and follow the step-by-step instructions and I was done in a jiffy!

Now I'm good to go!

Do you have any other suggestions for saving money using a smartphone?  Have you ever tried a prepaid phone or would you like to try one?

13 Free Ways to Take Care of YOU

Many women shy away from taking care of themselves because they get the idea that it's selfish.

But you cannot pour anything out of an empty pitcher.  And if YOU are running on empty, you can't pour into the other people around you either.  Taking care of yourself is a very loving thing to do for your family.  It gives them the gift of a peaceful, calm wife and mom instead of a grouchy, irritable mess.

When you're running low on fuel and you need to recharge, it can feel like it's impossible to do anything for yourself.  There's just not enough time or money!

I understand we all can't go out and get ourselves a massage or go shopping at an upscale boutique.  So I've collected some easy, free ideas for you (many of which came from you all via my Facebook page – thanks!) so that you will have some ideas of how you (yes, you with the realistic budget and schedule!) can take care of yourself.

When you're starting to feel irritable it's time to quit folding laundry and thinking about everything on your to-do list and just relax!

Put the kids down for a nap or set them up with an activity they can do independently and try one of these:
1. Take a nap.

2. Soak in an epsom salt bath.

3. Listen to relaxing music.

4. Massage your feet with lotion.

5. Get up a few minutes before your family and enjoy the quiet.  If it's nap time, just sit quietly and rest.

6. Spend time with God.  (See: How to find time for God When You Can Hardly Find Time to Breathe)

7. Read.

8. Take a hot shower.

9. Spend time with a Godly friend, either in person or over the phone.

10. Eat some chocolate.

11. Put on makeup or pretty clothes, paint your nails, etc.

12. Exercise.

13. Write in a journal.

These ideas came from real ladies who have learned the art of self-care.  Did you notice that no one suggested spending more time on the computer or browsing their social media accounts?  The truth is, those things can leave you feeling more tired and discouraged than ever.  You might see all the picture-perfect Pinterest houses and weigh yourself down with the knowledge that your house doesn't look like that.  You might see all your Facebook friends talking about this or that wonderful thing that's happening in their lives and be discouraged that it's not happening to you.  You might see all the horrible news that's taking place in our world and be troubled by it.

Turn it off and just do something quiet.  Don't just rest your body; rest your mind and soul.

 How do you like to take care of yourself? I'd love to hear!

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Why I’m Not Writing About 50 Shades of Grey

It's impossible to pull up anything on the internet right now without something coming up about 50 Shades of Grey.

Everyone is all abuzz about the movie that's coming out this weekend. There are those that are excited to see it, and there are those who are urging Christian people not to watch it.

In no way do I think Christians have any business watching a movie that offers such a twisted view of the beauty and sacredness of Biblical sexuality.

But there are two reasons I'm not devoting an entire post to warning Christian woman (and men) against watching this movie or reading these books.

1. There will always be some new thing offered by the world, and it would be impossible to write about every single movie, book, magazine, or TV show that Christians have no business putting into their minds.
2. I don't need to put filth into my own mind just so I can be “informed” enough to tell you everything that's wrong with it. (I'm not saying I need to be completely ignorant about what people are facing, and that I shouldn't have a general idea of what message is currently bombarding people.  But I've had to click away from some articles about the movie because, even though they were speaking against watching it, there were so many details in the article itself that the same filth was still going into my mind, just through a different means.)

My goal on this blog is to help others get to know the Word of God well enough that they can apply its principles to every situation with which they are faced. I want you to have Scriptures in your mind that will help you know what's right without having to turn to a blogger or speaker to help you decide whether or not you should watch a certain movie, wear a certain clothing style, or listen to a certain song.

So without going into every aspect of the movie's plot (which I purposely did not research to protect my own mind), what is wrong with 50 Shades of Grey and every other movie, book, or song with this type of theme? What are the Biblical principles you should know that will tell you to stay away from it without even having to know all the details?

1. God's Word says to guard our thoughts and purposely put things that are good and noble into our minds.

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

2 Corinthians 10:5  Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

Psalm 101:3  I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me.

Proverbs 4:23  Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.

2. God's Word gives us all the information we need to make our marriages hot both physically and emotionally.

Hebrews 13:4  Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

1 Corinthians 7:1-5  Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.  Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

Pro 5:15-21  Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.  Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?
For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings.
And if that's not enough, just go read the book of Song of Solomon!

3. God's Word tells us what true love is.

1 Corinthians 13:5-8 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth:

 Eph 5:22-31  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.   Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,   That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.   For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:   For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

4. God's Word tells us to hate those that hate Him.

Psalm 101:3  I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me.

Psalm 139:21-22  Do not I hate them, O LORD, that hate thee? and am not I grieved with those that rise up against thee?  I hate them with perfect hatred: I count them mine enemies.

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If Christians would live according to God's Word, they would hate the lies that the devil is producing through media and cultural norms.  When Hollywood produces a new movie, it should be obvious that it's not something to even consider bringing into our homes.  The world hates God!  Why would I want to bring their philosophy into my home, whether that is through 50 Shades of Grey or through anything else they produce?

In fact, I would venture to say that perhaps some of the more “innocent” material is more dangerous than this latest craze because more Christians are apt to watch it since it is “not as bad.”

Do you agree?

Would you drink a glass of water with 10 drops of poison in it?  No!

But what if that glass of water only had 1 drop of poison in it?  Would you drink it then?  I didn't think so.  So why would you refuse  a movie with 10 immoral scenes in it but allow one with only 1?  Or refuse one where God's name is used in vain 10 times but allow one with only 1 use of it?

Do you see, friends?  God calls us to be holy!  If we would just obey that, there would be no need for article after article to be written urging Christians to stay away from the latest movie.  We would see the message of anti-holiness that it proclaims and run far away because our spirits would be grieved.

But because we have embraced the “one-droppers”  since they “aren't so bad”,   it becomes easier and easier for what is very obviously sick, perverted, anti-Christian (no pun intended), and anti-God to weasel its way into our homes, lives, thoughts, and eventually actions.

1Peter 1:15  But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation…

It all boils down to holiness.  Just like a banker can immediately recognize counterfeit money because he studied the real thing so much, let us study God's Word.   Let us get to know Him on such an intimate level that when something comes across our radar that contains even one drop of “poison”, our internal radar will immediately engage and we will know to stay away.

Let's get to know God so that we may be holy like Him.