Are You an Imperfect Homemaker?

Do you ever feel like you just don't have it together?

Are you disorganized and undisciplined?

Are you ever ashamed when your husband comes home because you haven't used your time wisely that day?

Do you snap at your kids and speak unkind words to your husband?

Do you think back over the day with feelings of guilt because you know you should have acted differently in the area of __________(you fill in the blank)?

Although  you'll never be perfect, these things really shouldn't be normal.

But you know what? I struggle with them all sometimes. I'm not telling you that because I'm proud of it.  I'm telling you that because I'm sure some of you struggle with these things too.

The question is: What are you going to do about it?

Let me be honest here: tomorrow is the last day of the healthy living bundle, and I was originally planning this post to highlight some of the great books on self-discipline.

But as I began to write, God spoke to my heart and said, “What's more important?  What's going to help women more?  Books? Or THE Book?”

So here I am to say,

If you're an imperfect homemaker, struggling with certain areas in your life that you know need to change, turn to the ONLY book that can change your life. The author is perfect.  The book itself will act as a mirror, revealing what's in your heart. It will act as a sword, cutting out those hidden parts of your life that need to be removed. It will act as a light, to guide you when you know you need to change, but aren't quite sure how.

If I lose some sales because I'm telling you that self-help books won't change your life, so be it.  If I've encouraged someone…anyone…to seek God's face and rely on Him to be the woman He wants you to be, I rejoice.

Do I think your health will benefit from the books and resources in the healthy living bundle? Absolutely.

But I know what's far more important, and if you only choose one book to read, study, and follow, choose God's.

Joshua 1:8   This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.

What Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Feels Like

An excerpt from my new book, Farewell, Fatigue: How I Overcame Chronic Fatigue the Natural Way

After the birth of my third child, I thought I was perfectly healthy. My recovery was easy, the baby learned to sleep through the night very quickly, and our expanded family soon fell into a smooth rhythm. I had been dabbling into research and experimentation with healthier eating, and I was sure that as time went on our entire family would begin to feel better and better.

But that was not the case. I soon became very tired all the time. I ignored it at first, thinking that was just life as a busy mom. Then my brain began to feel foggy and I could not seem to think clearly. My kids were all good sleepers, and I began taking the opportunity to sleep ten to twelve hours at night, but I still felt tired when I got up in the morning. I continued with healthy eating habits and experimented with removing gluten and sugar from my diet.

Still I got worse. Life became like a bad dream. Many days I would park the kids in front of a video because I could barely hold my eyes open. If they wanted me to read to them I often had to say no because the simple act of talking made me lose my breath. My heart would often race for no apparent reason. My husband would come home to find me in bed with no housework done or supper made. I became depressed, partially from whatever was going on in my body, and partially as a result of feeling like a failure as a homemaker.

Whenever I went anywhere, my brain felt like it was on overload. I felt like I could not process the things I was seeing and hearing quickly enough, and I would get so dizzy and overwhelmed that I just had to close my eyes and put my head down. The slightest exertion, even something as simple as brushing my hair, would leave me exhausted and out of breath. Many days I felt like my body was not receiving any oxygen. My limbs would feel numb and I felt like I would black out. I became easily agitated at things that should not have been bothersome. Noise bothered me terribly and made me feel either panicked or angry. I often had to go close myself up in a quiet room for a while because I could not handle the noise of my kids talking and playing.

I had a very hard time concentrating and did not enjoy being in social situations because it was too hard to process everything I was seeing and hearing. It was a monumental effort to carry on an intelligent conversation.

On the very worst days I was so weak that I could not move or speak. When my kids would climb up onto the bed and try to hug me or talk to me, it took every ounce of willpower to simply raise my arm a small amount to acknowledge their presence. As tired as I was, I often found it difficult to sleep at night. My legs were restless and itchy, and heart palpitations made me feel anxious…

Praise the Lord, today I can say that I feel like a completely different person!

He clearly directed me to the information I needed to restore my health, and I've shared it in my new book.

Get the book here.

10 Ways Kids Can Help in the Kitchen

My children are always begging to help me in the kitchen, but sometimes I have a hard time thinking of things they could do.  I did a little brainstorming and compiled a list of 10 ways kids can help in the kitchen. These are things that children as young as age 2 can do.

1.Dump ingredients into a bowl.  You measure it and then allow them to dump it into the bowl.

2. Stir.  Since they will probably not stir it as well as it needs to be done, you can tell them that you will start and they can finish.

3. Put toppings on pizza.  Lay out the toppings and let them have fun spreading them on the pizza.

4. Put forks, napkins, and condiments on the table.  Of course you're not going to let a very small child put the breakable dishes on the table, but they can set the forks and napkins around and help you put small items on the table like ketchup or salad dressing.

5. Sweep the floor.  A child is not going to be able to get the floor completely swept, but they will feel like such a big boy or girl using the broom.  It will probably keep them occupied for a while.  You can also teach them how to hold the dustpan for you while you sweep the dirt into it.

6. Tear up salad greens.  If salad is on the menu, you can keep children occupied tearing the lettuce.  They may even do a better job at it than you!

7. Wash dishes.  Give them a chair, a sink full of soapy water, and some unbreakable dishes, and let them have at it!  They may end up a little bit wet, and you will most likely have to re-do the dishes, but they will have fun!  They will also be developing the skills they need to wash them them right way when they get a little older.

8. Dry dishes.  If you're not in the mood for a wet kitchen, you could wash and let them dry.

9. Chop Vegetables with an enclosed chopper.  If you have a hand chopper that is enclosed, they could take a turn at chopping.

10. Help you unload the dishwasher.  Kids as young as age 1 love to help unload the silverware from the dishwasher.  They can hand you one piece of silverware at a time while you put them away.

Children will probably not do everything perfectly in the kitchen, and you may get frustrated when they use the spoon more often as a bat than as a stirring utensil. But when you allow them to help, they will develop skills that will allow them to really be a help in the future.  You are also spending valuable time with them, and they will know by the time you spend how much you love them.

What did I miss?  I'm sure there are more things that kids can do in the kitchen that I didn't think to put on this list.  I'd love for you to leave a comment and give some more ideas!

For even more ideas and practical advice for getting kids involved in the kitchen, check out Adventures With Kids! In the Kitchen.  It's normally $14.95, but when you buy it as part of the Ultimate Healthy Living Bundle, you'll get it plus another $1000 worth (yes, that's one thousand dollars) of resources for $29.97!

Easy Workout Routine for Busy Women

Raise your hand if you need an easy workout routine that doesn't take long but still provides great benefits to your body.

Are you in bad shape, know you need to get started exercising again, but need something that's not too much for just starting out?

Here is the workout routine that I was doing before I got pregnant and which I will probably start back with after the baby is born.

Do the following for one minute each:

• Walk in place
• High Knees
• Jumping Jacks
• Front Kicks
• Jumping Jacks
• Run in place
• Walk in place
• Lunges
• Hip Raises
• Pushups
• Squats
• Hip Raises
• Lunges
• Walk in place
• Calf Stretches

When I get my strength built up, I will probably repeat this 2 times and do 30 minutes worth. To make it easy to time each thing for 1 minute, I set this online timer for 15 minutes. When it gets down to 14 minutes, I start on the next thing; at 13 minutes I do the next thing, and so on and so forth.

Print the list out here for easy reference.

The Ultimate Healthy Living Bundle is Here!

I am so excited that this bundle is finally available for you to purchase! I personally believe it is a no-brainer when you consider that the value of just the bonus products is far beyond the cost of the entire bundle!  That doesn't include the 86 ebooks and free mentorship from healthy living authors!

What's in the Bundle?

How Much Does the Bundle Cost?

Ultimate: Maximum; decisive; conclusive. The best or most extreme of its kind.

We wouldn't call it the “ultimate” bundle if it wasn't true.

As our hard-working team pulled together the Ultimate Healthy Living 2013 Bundle Sale, we had 3 basic goals: to put a comprehensive health library at your fingertips, to offer something for everyone, and to provide so much value for an itty-bitty price that it would be irresistible.

In a nutshell? This bundle is brimming with more than 80 ebook and ecourse resources, from authors and bloggers known as authorities in their fields.

For less than $30, you can pick up your own bundle complete with more than $800 of ebooks, $67 of interactive “coffee table conversations” with their authors, and $158 of products and services to help you on your way toward healthier living. That's over a $1,000 value!

I didn't want to overwhelm you with the HUMONGOUS list of everything that's included, but you can see it here.

And if you didn't watch my video yet where I share my heart about why I believe it is so worth it for you to invest in this bundle, you can watch it now.

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How I Get My Babies to Sleep Through the Night

How to get your baby to sleep through the night — that is definitely one of the first things a sleep-deprived new mom wants to know!

First of all, can I just say that I have never understood that thing called “Mommy Wars”?

Why in the world do women get upset because they parent their kids one way and another mom parents hers differently?

I mean, that just really confuses me as to why that's a big deal. Whatever works for one mom is not what works for another mom.  So what?

That being said, I'm sharing today how I get my babies to sleep through the night. If it's not what works for you, that's okay. But for some of you who are desperate for a good night's sleep and you think this is something you'd like to try, here's the info.

The main thing that I have done is to put my babies on a feeding and sleeping schedule from the day they are born.

I'm not talking about taking this to the extreme and making your baby scream because it's 2:30 and he's not scheduled to eat until 3:00.

Here's a basic rundown of a typical schedule for a newborn in my house:

7 am- first feeding of the day; play until sleepy; nap until next feeding time

10 am – feed; wake time; sleep

1 pm – feed; wake time; sleep

4 pm – feed; wake time; sleep

7 pm – feed; wake time; sleep

10 pm – last feeding for the evening, go straight to bed for the night

During the day, I wake the baby when it's time to eat if he's still napping.

I can't believe you would wake up a sleeping baby! Why don't you just enjoy the quiet?

In my experience it has always been worth it to do it this way. It helps the baby develop a routine, and pretty soon they begin to feel hungry or sleepy at the times you have scheduled. It works extremely well for me, especially since I have a lot of responsibilities at church.  I can have the peace of mind that my baby is not going to be hungry while I'm in the middle of trying to play the piano for the service.

When I put the baby down for the night, I don't wake him up until he wakes up on his own. I feed him however many times he wakes up during the night, and in the morning, I try to get him right back on schedule for the day by feeding him around 7 am. If he wakes up at 6:30 hungry, I'll go ahead and feed him and then try to gradually get him back on schedule the rest of the day. For instance, the next feeding time is at 10 am, but he'll probably start getting hungry around 9:30. I can probably hold him off with a pacifier or some other distraction until 9:45, and do the same thing at the next couple feedings until he's back on schedule. If the whole day stays off by 15 – 30 minutes, though, it's not really that big of a deal. I want to be clear and state again that I'm not an advocate of taking the schedule to an extreme and letting baby scream just because it's not time to eat yet.  Gently holding him off for a few minutes is an entirely different thing.

When baby is on a routine like this, I always know exactly what he needs. All I have to do is look at the clock to know if he's crying because he's hungry or because he's tired. I have known several families who have followed similar schedules with their babies, and their babies are some of the most easy-going and easy-to-care-for babies I have seen.

After the first 8 – 10 weeks, all 3 of the babies I've had so far have slept through the night. When they are on a consistent routine, their bodies easily adjust to knowing that nighttime is for sleeping and daytime is for eating, playing, and napping.

I keep them in a bassinet in my room until they start sleeping through the night, then I move them to their own room. I have a high need for sleep, and I'm just an all-around better mommy when I get plenty of rest without baby noises keeping me awake. Again, if that's not what you like to do, that's okay too. Do what works for you.

I used the book On Becoming Babywise to help me figure out what type of schedule to make for my babies at different ages. It was helpful to know how often they needed to be eating and sleeping in order to be healthy. I know the book in its entirety is somewhat controversial, but I found the practical info invaluable.

As I've said several times, I know there is not one right way to parent, and all parents will find that different things work better for them.

I've shared what works for me because I was so grateful that someone did the same for me before my first child was born. I had no clue you could help a baby get on a routine. I thought you had to wait until they got themselves on a schedule and play every day by ear. I thought that all babies wanted to nurse all day long and never be put down. That is so not me. I love my babies, and I spend plenty of cuddle time with them, but I would just be one worn out mama if I carried them around and nursed them all day. (Some mama's love it – go superwoman!)

Our days generally run fairly smoothly even when I have a newborn in the house. I know for the most part when they'll be eating and when they'll be sleeping and I can plan my day accordingly. (I hope I'm not shooting myself in the foot by saying these things because I still have 2 more weeks before the newest one will be born! Hopefully he/she won't be the exception!)  *Update: Our new baby slept through the night by 6 weeks!

Mama, if you're tired, I sincerely hope you'll find a way to get some rest – whether it's the way I do it or another way that works for you.

Leave a comment and let us know your struggles and/or what works for you!

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